Confidence.
True and pure unadulterated confidence.
Deserved confidence.
Calculated confidence.
Unassuming confidence.
Quiet confidence.
Not the confidence that someone has in you, but that which you have for yourself.
The confidence that inspires.
I’ve had a series of experiences recently, all centered around this phenomenon that is confidence. Through these experiences, it is becoming more and more apparent that: while variety may be the spice of life, confidence is the fire that cooks the meal. You can’t truly enjoy life at its core without some level of confidence.
We talk about focus, discipline, and consistency. Sure those are very important as well, but without confidence, those things rarely stick. Confidence is the silent force behind every bold move, every boundary set, every decision that says, “I deserve to be here.”
It’s what lets you speak up in a room full of doubt, take a shot when you don’t feel ready or you are in the most pressurized of situations, or just keep showing up when results haven’t caught up yet.
Confidence doesn’t shout. It doesn’t need validation. It simply knows.
The tricky thing about confidence is that it isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you build. Some people build it young and keep it through adulthood (all their lives), others don’t have it and through work they evolve and develop it.
Real confidence isn’t loud. It’s not performative. It’s not about faking it until you make it.
It’s about earning it.
Confidence grows from repetition. Doing the thing again and again until you no longer need to convince yourself you can. You just know you can. When you keep doing it, the confidence keeps growing. It’s a very neat feedback loop if you get into it.
Do it, keep doing it, and don’t stop when you get it right. Stop when you can’t get it wrong.
It's in showing up on the days you feel off.
Now on a big day when you don’t feel like yourself, you know you can do what needs to be done because you’ve done it before.
It’s in doing the reps when nobody’s watching.
Now when they are, you make it look so simple and easy.
It’s in failing, learning, and trying again.
Now you have the knowledge that failure isn’t the end, it’s actually the beginning.
Confidence is the compound interest of effort.
The more you do, the more you know.
The more you know, the more you trust yourself.
That’s why we always say — lay a brick every day, even if it’s just one.
Because every time you do, you’re making a deposit into your confidence account.
It’s the process of failing, improving, and mastering that breeds confidence.
And even when you’ve built it, it still needs maintenance. It’s constantly being worked on.
Confidence isn’t a switch — it’s a system.
The ones who truly have it… built it.